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Why Being Short is an Asset in Pickup, Part 2

Last time, I talked about how, if you’re short, space and position in the field are your friend. You can get closer to girls without weirding them out, and you can slide in between the spaces that taller guys operate in.

Now I’d like to talk about the emotional side of Short Guy Game. It’s my opinion that anything that could cause you to be embarrassed, but doesn’t, turns into an advantage. When you respond nonchalantly to challenges of this sort (someone attempting to tease you, for example), you gain even more status.

How does this apply to Short Guys? Well, any time someone tries to bring up my height, I just frame it how I want. If a guy is threatened by my game (happens pretty often) and has enough balls to challenge me directly (doesn’t happen often), with something like “Hey man the midget convention’s next door,” I will respond with a mischievous half-smile and something like “Hey man, you don’t have to feel insecure just because I’m shorter than you.”

Not only is that statement confusing, it’s also very dominant. Perfect to neutralize a guy who is trying to trip you up.

If a girl says something like “You’re too short for me” I might respond with something like “I’m the shortest guy in the world” and go back to what I was saying. That shows I’m comfortable with my height, which is by far the most important part of Short Guy Game.

Seriously, are you comfortable with your height? Anything you’re not comfortable with, your girl will pick up on, and also be uncomfortable with. So get that handled, bro. Do some reframing or use other psychological techniques to get comfortable with yourself on all levels.

During the description of the type of responses I give to guys who try to test me, I mentioned it doesn’t happen often. That is one of the huge advantages to being smaller. Guys just aren’t that intimidated by us, so they don’t get aggressive as often.

My taller wings have to deal with violent guys moderately often, and it is a waste of time. They would rather be talking to chicks and getting laid than having to diffuse some insecure drunk idiot. It’s not hard to do it if you know how, but it can be an annoyance. I’ve been physically challenged by guys only a handful of times in thousands of sets.

It’s much easier to work under the radar for us Short Guys. We can pull a girl in stealth mode. Stealth mode is virtually unheard-of for a guy like Brad P. He towers over the crowd so anything he does is public knowledge. Occasionally I like to run high-energy big game to get the maximum notice from a crowd too. But it’s great to be able to switch up techniques depending on the energy level of the venue, etc.

Lastly, any perceived disadvantage that you turn to an advantage is inherently attractive! In other words, the bar is lower, so when you have good game and you’re short, it’s doubly impressive and attractive. Girls think, rightly so, that overcoming what they see as obstacles is ballsy and sexy.

Just don’t let ’em know that being short is actually an advantage in pickup! It’s our secret.

Why Being Short is an Asset in Pickup, Part 1

After breaking up with the girl I brought to that play from the intro post, I was out at a college bar in West Hollywood. I was working on my game in an environment very uncomfortable to myself. I was 31, though I looked younger (being short helps me maintain youthful looks), hanging around people ten years younger. I am a classical music buff, barely ever drink, and didn’t have any friends below 28. This brightly lit, loud bar playing cheesy 80s rock, with stupid drinking games and stupider kids was exactly not my scene.

There were really, really hot college girls there, though. That helped motivate me.

So I’m approaching. I’m just doing it. Diving in. Working on my skillset. Battling through the discomfort. Hell, battling through the fear. Half the guys are over six feet. Many are twice as broad as me. A jock scene . . . in fact it seems like the crowd is constantly, physically above me. You short readers know the feeling. Guys shorter than average are more rare in nightlife. After about three approaches, I’m in the swing of things and my biological impulses (“The chieftain will surely kill you if you approach these fertile females of the tribe!’) are a murmuring, tiny static in the background. Then I see her.

Huge, luminescent green eyes sparkling against her tan skin under chestnut shoulder-length straight hair. About 5’7″, slender but with noticeable curves in her tight jeans and tight baby T. Her back is against a pillar and she has the look of a queen on her throne, slightly bemused by her fawning courtiers.

The reason for this expression became clear as I looked at the mass of muscle bulk before her. Four enormous jocks formed a semicircle around her. These guys were all above 6’3″ and 220 lbs. I was warmed up, so immediately I saw my window.

What is that window? Let me explain here. Space is not equal. For my best friend growing up, who is now 6’5″, the world is a little place, full of cramped spaces in vehicles and uncomfortable closeness. You’re constantly moving away from people so you just have a bit of room to maneuver and not fall down, because your center of gravity is so high. When you talk to someone, the natural distance to stand away is maybe 3 feet or more.

I’m 5’7”. For me, the world is spacious and easy. A queen bed is a huge space where a girl my size and I can sprawl at will. Car and plane seats are comfortable and relaxing. My personal space is rarely impinged. I can stand six inches away from someone and they don’t feel threatened or weird.

So back to the jocks. If they were closer than about 3 feet to the girl, she would feel these huge monsters looming over her. So naturally they are a comfortable distance away. Meanwhile, it would be kind of gay if they were closer than about two feet from each other.

Two feet is a big space for me. I saw that girl through the window and slid through. There’s a solid chunk of space for me to stand (with my back to the guys) and deliver my high impact opener. Immediately 100% of her attention is on me. Why?

  1. It’s ballsy to interrupt any interaction. It’s ballsier if that interaction is between four guys and a girl. It’s even ballsier if the girl is hot, you’re short, and the guys could lift a mid-size sedan clear off Santa Monica Boulevard.
  2. My material is probably better than anything those dunderheads were saying. This is an advantage all pickup artists have over run-of-the-mill guys.
  3. My clothes and presence were out of the ordinary. My outfit was pretty outlandish at the time (not saying that’s a good thing per se) and my energy level was definitely a notch higher than the jocks’ boring vibe.
  4. I was touching her immediately, while the jocks were too busy trying not to scare her.

After about twenty seconds, I had not been cockblocked, so I took a quick glance around me. The guys had just melted away. I find that happens a lot. My tall friends tend to rouse the ire of guys a lot more. That’s what I’ll be discussing in the next blog post in this series.

Intro to Short Guy Game

A lot of students ask me, how do you get laid when you’re so short?

To be honest, it never even occurred to me to be a problem. I knew from an early age that people responded more to personality than to looks. Don’t get me wrong, looks are important. Height is an attraction trigger. The fact that escapes many short guys, the essential fact, is that lack of height is not a rejection trigger. Shortness in and of itself is neutral.

I remember going to a play here in Hollywood one night. The play was totally awesome, and crazy, and starred a guy that went on to become a TV star, but that’s beside the point. As the nonchalant crowd filed lackadaisically in, my (actress) girlfriend at the time pointed out a hip tiny figure in a hip tiny suit and hip tiny shoes. This guy was truly miniscule – like under three feet. Before I recognized him, I recognized the assured walk of his female cohort, a 5’10” gorgeous redhead in a tight red dress with serious curves. As he walked from behind the (what must have been enormous to him) rows of seats, I saw it was a famous actor. The guy who gets all the parts for little people in big commercial flicks.

Okay, I know this guy is rich and successful. However, he was also UNDER THREE FEET TALL. And his girl looked very proud to be with him.

Most actors are short. A tall actor like Vince Vaughan has to walk in trenches so that his co-star’s head and his can both be seen in a shot. Directors like to avoid problems like that. Shortness doesn’t affect their game, so why should it affect yours? I find I can get away with more cockiness being short. I can be louder and more crazy and more ballsy and more sexual than tall guys. Why? Because girls don’t expect it. Unexpected = confusion = attraction.

I’m really looking forward to writing this blog. I’ll be talking about Short Guy Game of course, but I’ll also talk about general subjects in picking up women and having a great dating lifestyle. Also, I’ll talk a bit about coaching alongside the pickup instructor Brad P for the last three years. Questions and comments are welcome. I want to spread some of the knowledge and positivity that helped me achieve my dating goals.


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